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AeP
skype: broken.silence
20. Aquarius. Female. USA

Most of the fandoms you will see on this blog:
Supernatural,
Anything/everything Joss Whedon,
Harry Potter, Team Starkid,
Doctor Who,
Teen Wolf,
Being Human (UK, not that I have a mad hate-on for the US version),
Dexter,
Queer as Folk,
The Hunger Games...

agoraven:

gayf3r:

nightingaleinasilvercage:

ariane-stillcries:

loveglutton:

dearscience:

i can never not reblog this. 

Have to.

…

Welcome to the priorities of the human race.

Forever reblog.

i got chills from this. rest in peace hero.

agoraven:

gayf3r:

nightingaleinasilvercage:

ariane-stillcries:

loveglutton:

dearscience:

i can never not reblog this. 

Have to.

Welcome to the priorities of the human race.

Forever reblog.

i got chills from this. rest in peace hero.

(via itrytobemybest)

serkets:

itsgayerinenochian:

creepyjirachi:

"you can’t be just friends with people of the gender you’re attracted to"
myth actually true. i, as a bisexual, can confirm that i have no friends.

pansexuals spend their lives in solitude, with only rocks for company

meanwhile asexuals are friends with everyone. literally every single person on the planet. i do not know how i remember so many names

(via marvelnotmarbles)

grizzlykurtz:

witchesbitchesandbritches:

lifeundefeated:

Yea it’s clearly our “generation that’s making homosexuality a trend.” Seriously, pisses me off when people say that. look at this! It’s always been around, it’s not a trend, it’s real. It’s beautiful.

These are really beautiful images.

History Lesson: In America from about 1700-1920 there was a social rule that said that women did not have a sex drive. According to men, all women ever were asexual and only ever had sex because their husbands wanted it and as a good doting wife they would open up for him. That said, lesbians flourished in this time! Because it was believed that women did not have sex, when two women would share a house and finances together (called a Boston Marriage, look it up!) nobody thought anything of it. Because clearly they werent homosexuals since clearly women were incapable of being independently sexual. The more you know!

(Source: babycocodill, via justawordshaker)

t-r-a-n-s:

A gender 101 resource for anyone and everyone!
Fully illustrated and colorful resource that’s a 09-page hardback book, and available online for free or your love donation. Learn more at thegenderbook.com

t-r-a-n-s:

A gender 101 resource for anyone and everyone!

Fully illustrated and colorful resource that’s a 09-page hardback book, and available online for free or your love donation. Learn more at thegenderbook.com

(via thecsph)

findchaos:

deducecanoe:

travelersinthedark:

datmeebs:

p0kemina:

genderisnotsex:

fictionalfeather:

Okay can I talk about my binder for a sec?

I’m a 34D, so all binders are awkward for me. Small band, large cup. So I never get quite flat, but some lumpy monstrosity with underboob poking out. But this one gets me the closest to flat while being the most comfortable binder I own.

And it looks like a tanktop!! And it was $10!!

It’s got stretchy bits on one side, and a line of bra-like clasps on the other that you can adjust to three different sizes, again like a bra. I didn’t overheat or even really sweat even when wearing it under a shirt in early summer pre-storm humidity. And once you get yourself situated just right, you can’t tell the tank is actually a binder.

Bam. Awesome.

$10.

EDIT: Here’s the link!

The listing has expired. Here’s a new link!

10 DOLLARIDOOS FOR ALL THE BABIES

I HAVE A MIGHTY NEED.

I HAVE ONE OF THESE! 

It is seriously the most amazing binder I have ever had. 

I may try this. I feel so much more like a human being when my boobs are squished. I have switched exclusively to sports bras, the squishier the better.

I can attest to this binder being comfortable and awesome, because I have one of them, myself. In fact, it’s even the binder I wore for our Smut Peddler story! :O So meta.

(via lipstick-feminists)

fullmetalbatman:

also to extend on the whole ‘a for asexual not ally’ thing. i am an ally? i am part of the community but i am not everything? im not straight but im not trans* or ace or a gay man or demisexual? so im here, i identify to others as bisexual (i worded it that way because i dont identify with myself as bi? im really just me? idk its a personal thing? i guess.) but just because im bi doesnt mean i only care about bisexuals and our problems? im also there to be supportive to those who are ace and gay men and trans* and lesbians. its not just straight people who can be allies. there is an alarming amount of biphobia, transphobia and probably lesbianphobia (does that also count as homophobia? like it is but its not? if a gay guy or trans person is specifically like ‘ew lesbians’.i dunno but you get it) within our own community. so the second A for ally is not only for straight allies, but for all allies.

Reasons why I need the A in LGBTIAQ to stand for Asexual, not Ally   →

fullmetalbatman:

newtalby:

zig-a-zig—ahh:

newtalby:

zig-a-zig—ahh:

defira85:

Because my mother told me that all I needed to do was get drunk and lie back and let me husband have his fun. Because if I was drunk, I’d be more relaxed and it’d be over sooner

Because my sister told me that I was trapping my husband in an abusive marriage, and that one day he…

Its called LGBTQIAA for a reason….both Asexuals and Allies are represented.

please read the post

I did read the post prior to my first note, and then I read it a second and third time at your request. I still stand by my first statement.  There is representation for both Asexuals and Allies in the acronym. I’m not saying asexual people don’t need representation; I’m saying that you shouldn’t remove another group’s representation to you own benefit

im sorry but “allies” don’t need to be represented in the lgbt community. you tagged this post with “don’t take theirs to get yours" and it’s very well said but also complete bullshit in this context. dont take the LGBT term to represent straight people

Okay so i wasn’t going to say anything but i feel like i should? just because i see this argument a lot and i feel that a lot of people are looking over a few things? or maybe just not mentioning them?

First off i wanna say i agree with the original post. I believe that asexuality should be talked more about, should be openly accepted and not seen as a defect or anything else of the sort. Asexuality is a valid and important option to know about when going through the struggle of figuring out your sexuality. especially when people around you are treating it as a deformity or writing it off as a phase, or god forbid giving you advice to ‘fix it’ by telling you to essentially get raped. It’s fucking terrible to see a part of the LGBT community get written of so often and easily, even by others in said community. I want so much for everyone to be recognized and accepted fully for who they are, and for people to not question their self worth or the feelings of their loved one(s).

But saying that ‘A’ should never stand for ally is cutting a large and important part of the community, even though allies aren’t a base part by any means. 

When i say allies i dont even mean the people who ‘show support’ by being seen or working with someone gay. I’m not talking about Macklemore or a straight actor playing gay and saying it was a great and fulfilling experience and theyre so supportive and impressed or w/e by the LGBT people.

what i mean by ally is a mother/father/set of parents who fully supports their child when they come out. or your significant other not thinking less of you and sticking by you once they find out you’ve been with people of the same sex, or when you tell them you don’t/won’t want to have sex. the friends that stick around and stay interested in your life after you tell them you like girls too or that you dont ever want to have sex or that you were born in the wrong body, when they could just as easily turn their backs on you or, worse, attack you emotionally or physically for it. An ally is the person you might get on the hotline that you call when you can’t find reason to go on anymore.

I think LGBTQIAA is very legitimate and true, there should a place for allies because without them we will never get the word out there. without allies, its harder to find people who will help spread the word to others who just can’t get it. Straight people willing to help are an asset because they are the ones who can assist us when we talk to the rude and ignorant. unfortunately allies are sometimes the only ones who can speak to bigots who refuse to listen to someone who is ace or gay or trans. 

Saying the A in the short hand acronym stands for Asexual is something i stand behind 100%. Saying Allies should never be included or seen as part of the community is something i could never agree with. 

That being said, I DO agree that Allies do not need to be ‘represented’. It’s not a case of ‘take theirs to get yours’. There is a difference between being represented and simply being seen and appreciated.

I really hope this made sense and i got my point across.

TL;DR: There is a difference between representation and acknowledgement/appreciation. The first A in LGBTQIAA will always be for Asexual, but don’t for get the recognize and appreciate the second A.

Reasons why I need the A in LGBTIAQ to stand for Asexual, not Ally

defira85:

Because my mother told me that all I needed to do was get drunk and lie back and let me husband have his fun. Because if I was drunk, I’d be more relaxed and it’d be over sooner

Because my sister told me that I was trapping my husband in an abusive marriage, and that one day he was going to leave me

Because both of them looked at me in disgust

Because my asexuality is considered to be as great a crime against my husband as a woman who has affairs and cheats on her husband

Because my cousin didn’t even try to understand, and just kept asking ‘but what about in five years? how will you feel then?’

Because I was so afraid of my body and so afraid of sex that I didn’t seek medical help for a legitimate question for over a year for fear of being labelled a deviant or something broken

Because I still ask myself at least once every day if my husband wouldn’t be better off without me

Because I still ask myself at least once every day if I’m broken

Because I still tell myself at least once every day that I’m pathetic and useless and an abnormality

Because I love my husband with every fibre of my being, but everywhere I turn I’m told I really don’t, because love = sex

I need A to stand for Asexual because nobody ever talked to me about asexuality even when I was an outpatient at the women’s hospital for 18 months, and everyone told me desire would come in time

I need A to stand for Asexual because we are literally invisible, and so unimportant that people assume we don’t even need representation, because everyone assumes our lives must be bland and unimportant and lacking in challenges or bigotry

For every asexual that wants a relationship, for every asexual that does not want a relationship, for every asexual who has not yet come to terms with their identity, for every asexual who was told we were abnormalities, for every asexual who was told we just weren’t doing sex right, that we needed a good fucking, that we needed to be drunk, that we needed to relax, that we needed to be raped

We need representation, and we need visibility

That is why the A needs to stand for Asexual, and never for Ally

(via newtalby)

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After she came up to me and said, “I’ve been with my partner for 20 years… We would never get married because he’s on social security income, and because my daughter is disabled I have secondary income from the state to support my daughter. If I got married, both my benefits and his benefits would be reduced because we would become a double income family.”

She was explaining that marriage doesn’t work for poor people, and that it doesn’t work for disabled people. Having really simple examples like hers are important.

"

What if the LGBTQ movement fought for prison abolition rather than same-sex marriage? (via disabilityhistory)

this is important. for a lot of low income folks on government benefits, marriage is against their financial self-interest. trying to put a dollar amount of the symbolic value of marriage is hard.

(via abbyjean)

(via thegeicobrothers)

"Because the show is in a lot of ways about labels, Kieren is called a lot of things: a Partially Deceased Syndrome Sufferer, The First Risen, an Angel of Heaven, a Rotter, a Dead ‘Un. There are all these labels that people put on him, and it’s the same in life as well. People like to put others in boxes. So I kind of wanted Kieren’s sexuality to be that he falls in love with the person. Obviously he’s attracted to men, I think he’s attracted to women too. He’s attracted to their personality, and I quite like that, rather than “oh yes, he’s a gay zombie”. I didn’t want it to be a big deal. I know a lot of shows that deal with these sorts of issues; they make it the centrepiece of the character, that’s their only facet. It’s only once facet of Kieren, he’s got bigger fish to fry. There are bigger issues at hand than dealing with his sexuality. He’s quite comfortable with that, it’s being a zombie that he has trouble with."

—Dominic Mitchell on Kieren’s sexuality (x)

(Source: vagabondlanguage, via heathyr)

bugchat:

the word ‘bisexuality’ is a taboo

it isn’t said on tv. orange is the new black, for example, features a bisexual protagonist who points out the biphobia at one point in assuming she can’t be attracted to multiple genders, but no one Ever says the word and she is ignored and referred to as a straight girl or a lesbian depending on the situation

other bisexual characters later turn out to have been Really Monosexual All Along. or are attractive, promiscuous women with commitment issues

this isn’t a coincidence.

people who are attracted to multiple genders, when asked about it, often describe themselves as “Fluid”. “I’d rather not label it.” “I don’t need to define it.” “It’s just whatever.” as if people are afraid of even implying the b word

this isn’t a coincidence.

the word ‘bisexual’ gets you different reactions in different places. straight people think you’re either faking for attention or a deviant. straight men are afraid of bi men and think bi women are just particularly promiscuous straight girls who want to have threesomes with them

gay men accuse bi men of being in the closet. lesbians accuse bi women of being straight girls going through a phase. and the ones who don’t do either of these things still often assume bisexuals are promiscuous, indecisive, and can’t settle down.

the theme throughout is that bisexually is illegitimate, deceptive, and always a front for something else.

this isn’t a coincidence

people are constantly encouraged to ‘settle down’, to ‘just pick one’, to ‘not be greedy’. abandon bisexuality. you’re really gay. you’re really straight. you’re too young. how can you know you’re bisexual at 16? 18? 20? 25?

this isn’t a coincidence

the word ‘bisexuality’ is constantly, persistently manipulated, by people who aren’t bisexual at all. the meaning twisted on shallow rationale. accused of being transphobic, or of being exclusionary. this has been happening for over 20 years now despite the existence of outspoken trans and/or non-binary bisexuals. whatever they can do to make you not say the word. pick a different one.

this isn’t a coincidence

bisexual people - whether implied or literally, deliberately saying they are bisexual using the word - are constantly rewritten as gay or as straight. gay icon. he was never interested in men. bi actor comes out? headlines say ‘came out as gay’, or articles outright ignore it

it’s never, ever a coincidence. bi erasure is a constant, ongoing thing.

(via wumbopocalypse)